Hey babes!
I’ve been thinking lately about my bucket list, as a sub. I’ve been doing this kind of thing for years but there is still so much I’m curious to explore, and with a brand new year sat in front of me, I think it’s time to start crossing off some of my submissive goals.
Hypnotism
Okay, so we’re starting on a weird one… I have been curious about this for the longest time. I don’t even remember where I got the idea, I think it stems from my desire to be devoted entirely, and giving up control of my free will, and allowing myself to be entirely vulnerable to suggestion.
This is still something I know next to nothing about, and I haven’t yet been brave enough to bring it up, because I’m a little scared of looking a bit crazy, but I am doing a little research, to see what is possible, and maybe, hopefully soon, I will know enough to see if it is something I can seriously pursue.
Giving over control of food and drink choices
This 100% comes from the movie Secretary, aka, the actual film you want to show someone to introduce them to the idea of submission, rather than Fifty Shades Of Grey. I still remember the chills I got, all over my body, as I watched the scene where E. Edward Grey sent Lee Holloway into a frenzy as he gave her a specific list of foods she could eat at dinner.
I haven’t quite decided if I could handle this being a full time thing yet, because as much as I trust my current Dom, it would be a massive step, and a huge piece of control to give over, but I would like to explore it a little more. I have briefly experimented with having some decisions made, but in 2021, I’d really like to push this a little more.
Going to BDSM related events and making sub friends
I have thought about this a lot over the years. I know these events exist (well, they normally would, outside of a pandemic…) and I’ve always had the opportunity to go, but I never have. I’m a little shy. Not exactly shy because of who I am, or what I like, but just in general, so public events of any kind fill me with a little dread anyway. I’d like to have more submissive friends.
I have no interest in playing with others, or sharing my Dom, or being shared myself (in fact, I had that written into our agreement at the behest of my jealous streak), but I would love to have people in my life that I can relate to, and talk to about this part of my life, without them gaping in terrified awe or asking a bunch of awkward fifty shades related questions.
Being submissive is a big part of my life, and a very special part of my life that I genuinely treasure, but it can be very lonely, as I don’t have anyone I can confide in, or get advice from, or just fangirl about cute collars I’ve found on Etsy with. I have tried to do this by using networking websites, but to be honest, the second that you mention that you’re a submissive woman in your profile, many won’t read further than that, and you’ll be inundated with unwanted dick pics, threesome requests from couples, and demands for your submission, so, when the pandemic allows, I’d like to try and go out into the big wide world, and make friends in person, to see if that works out any better than my online attempt.
I will check back later in the year to let you know how these are all going!
Aqua x
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One reply on “My Submissive Goals For 2021”
Wow, all three of those things are on my mind also in various points of consideration and completion.
It’s hard to get out right now, for obvious reasons, so meeting other submissives or people in power exchange relationships is hard right now.
I have also thought about giving over food control, but I’m not sure I could do it in the end. I think I’d have to ask a lot for what I want. I also don’t think my Master would want the responsibility.
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